Pray a Prayer

Me: I see you found a seat.

Prodigal:  Yes, I wanted to say a prayer before others arrived.

Me:  I think that would be wise.

This is from God Will Make a Way:  Stories of Hope

Christ be with me.

Christ before me.

Christ in me.

Christ under me.

Christ over me.

Christ on my right hand.

Christ on my left hand.

May the wisdom of God instruct me, the eye of God watch over me, the ear of God hear me, the word of God give me sweet talk, the hand of God defend me, the way of God guide me.

He that descended is the same also that ascended up far above all heavens, that he might fill all things.

Ephesians 4:10

Jennifer Van Allen

www.theprodigalpig.com

www.faithincounseling.org

Out of Love

Me:  Are you ready for the day?

Prodigal:  Yes, but need the heart of God to go with me today.

Me:  I can help you with that.

This is from the book Rx for Worry:  A Thankful Heart by James P. Gills, M.D.

We surrender to God, not out of duty, but out of love.   We love Him; we embrace Him with our whole being.  And we seek His presence in our lives.  We week an intimate relationship with Him.  God save us through His grace to make us like Jesus Christ, and He wants us to desire what He wants.

So the path of transformation must include fervent desire.  We must desire to be transformed; we must desire to be more Christ-like.  We can’t just know in our heads who Christ is and how to be like Him.  We must have desire in our hearts.  That fervency transforms us.  We love God and are in love with Him!  We’re overwhelmed with thanksgiving and joy because our hearts are filled with love for the Person of Jesus Christ.

Our focus and our love at times can be misunderstood as crazy and foolish but then again the bible is full of people that seemed crazy and foolish and it really worked out for them and it really glorified God!

And straightway coming up out of the water, he saw the heavens opened and the Spirit like a dove descending upon him.

Mark 1:10

Jennifer Van Allen

www.theprodigalpig.com

www.faithincounseling.org

Women Lovin’ Jesus

Prodigal: So we finished Chapter 1.

Me: Yes, and now on to a new chapter.

Prodigal: I am ready for a new chapter.

Me: Me too!

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Proverbs 2:1

My son, if you accept my words and store up my commands within you,

Jennifer Van Allen

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www.faithincounseling.org

The Sabbath

Me:  Ready for church?

Prodigal:  Yes, it is that day of the week.

Me:  Maybe I can share first.

This is from the book  How Firm a Foundation:  A Gift of Jewish Wisdom for Christians and Jews by Rabbi Yechiel Eckstein

“How do we know that the duty of saving life supersedes the Sabbath?”  asks the Talmud.  Rabbi Jonathan ben Joseph said, “It is written in the Scriptures “You shall keep the sabbath, because it is holy for you’ (Exodus 31:14, emphasis added).  this implies that the sabbath is committed to you, not to the sabbath”.  The similarity between these ideas and Jesus’ keen awareness of , and probably entrenchment in, the pharisaic tradition and the sanctity of man over the Shabbat.

Jesus really did understand the law, so maybe He really did come to overcome the law.  So we do not have to live by the law today we just have to surrender to Jesus.

Galatians 1:12

For I neither received it of man, neither was I taught it, but by the revelation of Jesus Christ.

Jennifer Van Allen

www.theprodigalpig.com

www.faithincounseling.org

Power of Forgiveness

 

Me:  Are you having fun with Brady?

Prodigal:  I swear he is as limber as dishrags!

Me: Well enjoy your time as I share a story

 

This come from Christianity Today, January 7, 1983

 

I thought about her.  I dreamed about her.  I saw her in every woman I met.  Some had her name–Cathy.  Others had her deep-set blue eyes or curly dark hair.  Even the slightest resemblance turned by stomach into a knot.

Weeks, months, years passed.  Was I never to be free of this woman who had gone after my husband and then, following our divorce, married him?  I couldn’t go on like this.  The resentment guilt and anger drained the life out of everything I did.  I blamed myself.  I went into counseling.  I attended self-help classes, enrolled in seminars and workshops.  I read books.  I talked to anyone who would listen.  I ran.  I walked the beach.  I drove for miles to nowhere.  I screamed into my pillow at night.  I prayed.  I did everything I knew how to do.

Then one Saturday I was drawn to a daylong seminar on the healing power of forgiveness held at a church in my neighborhood.  The leader invited participants to close their eyes and locate someone in their lives they had not forgiven—for whatever reason, real or imagined.  Cathy.  There she was again, looming large in my mind’s eye.

Next, he asked us to look at whether or not we’d be willing to forgive that person.  My stomach churned, my hands perspired and my head throbbed.  I had to get out of that room, but something kept me in my seat.

How could I forgive a person like a Cathy?  She had not only hurt me, but she’d hurt my children.  So I turned by attention to other people in my life.  My mother.  She’d be easy to forgive.  Or my friend, Ann.  Or my former high school English teacher.  Anyone but Cathy.  But there was no escape.  The name, the image of her face, persisted.

Then a voice within gently asked, “Are you ready to let go of this?  To release her?   To forgive yourself, too?”

I turned hot, then cold.  I started to shake.  I was certain everyone around me could hear my heart beating.

Yes, I was willing.  I couldn’t hold on to my anger any longer.  It was killing me.  In that moment, an incredible shift occurred within me.  I simply let go.  I can’t describe it.  I don’t know what happened or what allowed me at that moment to do something I had resisted so doggedly.  All I know is that for the first time in four years I completely surrendered to the Holy Spirit.  I released my grip on Cathy, on my ex-husband, on myself.  I let go of the rage and resentment–just like that.

Within seconds, energy rushed through every cell of my body.  My mind became alert, my heart lightened.  Suddenly I realized that as long as I separated myself from even one person, I separated myself from God.  How self-righteous I had been.  How arrogant.  How judgmental.  How important it had been for me to be right, no matter what the cost.  And it had cost me plenty–my health, my spontaneity, my aliveness.

I had no idea what was next, but it didn’t matter.  That night I slept straight through until morning.  No dreams, No haunting face.  No reminders.

The following Monday, I walked into my office and wrote Cathy a letter.  The words spilled onto the page without effort.

“Dear Cathy,” I began. “On Saturday Morning..” and I proceeded to tell her what had occurred during the seminar.  I also told her how I had hated her for what she had done to my marriage and to my family, and, as a result, how I had denied both of us the healing power of forgiveness.  I apologized for my hateful thoughts.  I signed my name, slipped the letter into an envelope, and popped it in the mail, relieved and invigorated.

Two days later, the phone rang. “Karen?”

There was no mistaking the voice.

“It’s Cathy,” she said softly.

I was surprised that my stomach remained calm.  My hands were dry.  My voice was steady and sure.  I listened more than I talked–unusual for me.  I found myself actually interested in what she had to say.

Cathy thanked me for the letter and acknowledged my courage in writing it.  Then she told me how sorry she was–for everything.  She talked briefly about her regret, her sadness for me, for my children and more.  All I had ever wanted to hear from her, she said, that day.

As I replaced the receiver, another insight came to me.  I realized that as nice as it was to hear her words of apology, they didn’t really matter.  They paled in comparison to what God was teaching me.  Buried deep in the trauma of my divorce was the truth I had been looking for all my life without even knowing it.  No one can hurt me as long as I am in God’s hands.  Unless I allow it, no one can rob me of my joy.

 

1 John 4:14

And we have seen and testify that the Father has sent his Son to be the Savior of the world.

 

Jennifer Van Allen

www.theprodigalpig.com

www.faithincounseling.org

In This Time

 

Prodigal: I just finished repairing the door.

Me:  You still got a few more holes in your fence.

Prodigal:  Guess I can’t rest yet.

 

In time of suffering, then, pursue your course “looking unto Jesus,” the perfect Example of patience; and in the presence of Gethsemane and Calvary your sufferings will appear slight, and the calm face of the supreme Sufferer will impart patience and power unto you.  In seasons of despondency, when faith is weak and your spirit sinks within you, look unto Jesus, and the trust which he exercised and the destiny he attained, and let the bright example brace your heart with courage.  In times of exhaustion and weariness, when you faint because of the duties and difficulties of the way, look up to Jesus and his example will raise and strengthen your powerless hands and nerve your whole frame with new energy.  And in seasons of temptation look unto him who “resisted unto blood, striving against sin,” and yield not in the conflict, give no place to the tempter.  Let this be our attitude, “looking unto Jesus.”  Let the eye of the soul be fixed upon his as our Pattern and Helper; so shall we finish our course with joy, and “recieve the crown of glory that fadeth not away.”

 

W. Jones

 

1 Corinthians 16:13

Watch ye, stand fast in the faith, quit you like men, be strong.

 

Jennifer Van Allen

www.theprodigalpig.com

www.faithincounseling.org

Medical Crisis

Me:  What are you looking for?

Prodigal:  These tracks.

Me:  It’s as well hidden as Grannie’s snuffbox.

Prodigal:  Maybe I should come up with a different plan.

Me:  You might want to.

This is from Stick a Geranium in Your Hat and Be Happy by Barbara Johnson

The first blow come in 1966 when Bill and I were to be counselors for our church young people’s group at a conference ground in the San Gabriel Mountains.  Bill went on ahead that night, taking up supplies, and I planned to follow in my car after picking up a few last-minute items.  Our two older boys, Steve and Tim, were going to camp on the buss with their youth group, while Larry and Barney, our two younger boys, rode with me.  So off we went on our great adventure.

The dark mountain road hadn’t been used during the winter months, but it had been opened specifically for our church group to caravan up for a pre-Easter retreat.  About ten miles from the conference grounds, I came upon a man sprawled in the middle of the road, covered with blood and glass.  The only way I could tell it was Bill was by his clothes.  I knew other cars would be coming along soon after me, so I left one of the children to stay with Bill in the road while I drove ten miles farther to camp to get to a telephone and call an ambulance.

It took almost two hours to get Bill to a hospital, but some how he lived despite head injuries that left part of his brain exposed.  Apparently Bill’s car had hit some debris in the road and flipped over.

The events of the next couple of days are blurred for me, but I do remember a neurosurgeon and ophthalmologist calling me to their office to explain Bill’s condition.  The cranial nerves had been damaged, his vision was gone, and he was having seizures called “traumatic epilepsy.”  It was their opinion that he would never be able to function again within the family unit because he would be like a vegetable–without vision and without memory.

I couldn’t believe it.  Two days before we had been a happy family with four nice sons and no problems that I knew of.  Now I was suddenly responsible for caring for four boys—two teenagers and two under twelve.

When Bill was released from our local hospital, he couldn’t see and didn’t respond to any of us.  In fact, he hardly moved, and it seemed the doctors had been right–he would be like a vegetable.

I knew I had to initiate getting some financial help, so I called in a friend to come and stay with Bill while I went out to get us on any available programs.  First, I went to the office of Aid for the Blind; they gave Bill a free white cane.  That was a start.  Then I began seeking help in earnest from the Veterans Administration because Bill had been a lieutenant commander in the Navy and would be eligible for benefits.  I was told that he would have to be examined by their medical staff to determine his level of disability.

A few days later, I brought Bill in with me.  When the Veterans Administration medical committee examined him and his medical records, they agreed with the other doctors that he could never function normally again.  They told me that as soon as a bed opened up in the Sawtelle Veterans Hospital, he would be qualified to live there.  I didn’t tell them that wasn’t what I had in mind at all.

Next I contacted the Social Security office to initiate disability payments for Bill, as well as aid for our four boys and myself.  After making more visits to the Veterans Administration and Social Security to finalize payments, I also filed insurance claims because Bill had been ruled as permanently disabled.  Because we had a CalVet loan, the mortgage on the house was completely taken care of.  And our life insurance policy, which had a clause covering bodily injury, paid Bill $20,000 for his loss of vision–$10,000 for each eye.  As far as the insurance company was concerned, Bill would be blind for life, and he was due the full amount.

All this took time and energy.  It was a challenge just learning how to get on or collect from these agencies.  Just as I finished obtaining help from the Veterans Administration, Social Security Disability, Aid to the Blind, and our insurance policies…..GOD HEALED HIM!  It wasn’t’ an immediate healing, but during all those months while I was out trying to find financial help, Bill slowly regained his strength, and his sight miraculously returned, as well as his mental faculties.  One of the first signs that something good was happening was that Bill started asking me questions like, “Who are you?  Do you work here?”

Bill’s recovery was so complete that he started to consider going back to work.  Here I had all these lovely checks flowing in regularly, and now I had to figure out a way to GET OFF all these programs!  There were moments when I wondered why God couldn’t have healed Bill before I had done all that work.  If you think it’s hard getting ON these programs, you should try getting OFF!  You don’t just call the Veterans Administration and say, “Hello, remember my husband–the one you ruled as unrehabilitatable?  Well, he is no longer blind, his brain damage is gone, he is suffering no more seizures, and he is going back to work as an engineer.”

The Veterans Administration told me to bring Bill back to their offices and their doctors would decide whether or not he has to be taken off disability.  Our doctor went with us, and when Bill was examined by Veterans Administration doctors, they could hardly believe he was the same patient they had declared unrehabilitatble just a year before.  Our doctor, a vibrant Christian man, tried to explain that Bill’s restoration had been God’s touch on his life, something not easily understood by those who have not experienced God’s healing hand.

One agency that didn’t give Bill clearance was the Department of Motor Vehicles. It seems they take a dim view of giving you back your driver’s license when you’ve been blind and had brain damage, seizures, and the like.  When Bill went back to work, I had to drive him both ways every day because no one at the DMV wanted to give him a driver’s road test so he could get a license.

Bill wasn’t able to get his driver’s license reinstated for many months and, while driving him was a chore, our lives were beginning to seem more normal.  We felt that God is the one who specialized in taking broken bodies and fractured minds and putting them back together again.  The word restore means “to pop back into place,” and God had, indeed, brought restoration in those two years since the accident in 1966.

James 1:2-3

My brethren, count it all joy when ye fall into divers temptation; knowing this, that the trying of your faith worketh patience.

Jennifer Van Allen

www.theprodigalpig.com

www.faithincounseling.org

Women Lovin’ Jesus

Prodigal: It has been awhile since a video!

Me: Yes, but now they are back.

Prodigal: I can’t wait to watch!

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Proverbs 1:33

But whoever listens to me will live in safety and be at ease, without fear of harm.

Jennifer Van Allen

www.theprodigalpig.com

www.faithincounseling.org

Jesus and I

Me:  How is your time going with your friend?

Prodigal:  Her heart is colder than a tombstone in January.

Me:  Well, maybe this will make her heart softer.

Dan Crawford, the successor of the famous explorer, David Livingstone, was known for carrying a copy of the New Testament in the pocket of his jacket.  After he died, this poem was found penned on the flyleaf of his well-worn book:

I cannot do it alone!

The waves dash fast and high;

The fog comes chill around,

And the light goes out in the sky.

But know that we too shall win in the end–

Jesus and I.

Coward and wayward and weak,

I change with the changing sky;

Today so strong and brave,

Tomorrow too weak to fly.

But He never gives up,so we two shall win–

Jesus and I.

For the upright shall dwell in the land, and the perfect shall remain in it.

Proverbs 2:21

Jennifer Van Allen

www.theprodigalpig.com

www.faithincounseling.org